Fuck It. I’m Doing It Anyway.

Because not being yourself is fucking exhausting.

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So, at this point if you haven’t clicked out, the chances are you’re okay with swearing. Great, pull up a chair…

Okay, I know swearing for swearing’s sake is maybe over the top, but honestly I’m at a point in life where not being my-self is costing me more than it’s giving me.

For the longest time, I’ve been sitting on my voice.
Not because I didn’t have anything to say I’ve got volumes.
But because I was afraid it might be too much.

Too loud.
Too messy.
Too full of “fuck”s for polite business circles.

And if you’re reading this, I’d bet good money you know that feeling.

You’ve wanted to say the thing. Do the thing. Change the thing.
But you’ve been waiting.

Waiting for permission.
Waiting for clarity.
Waiting to be absolutely, without-a-shadow-of-a-doubt sure.

I get it. I stayed in a male-dominated job for twenty soul destroying years.
Not because I loved it (I hated it), but because I was terrified to leave.
Okay - I did get to do some cool stuff, but generally, I felt rubbish.
All I knew is, I had a bone deep agony that I was meant for something else.
What if I died before I worked it out?

Why didn’t I just leave if I wasn’t happy?
I didn’t know exactly what to do.
I wasn’t 100% clear. I didn’t have a step-by-step plan.
And that not-knowing felt like death to me.
The fear was immobilising.

So I stayed.
For two decades, I stayed.

Until I got sick.
Like, my body literally broke down to get me out of there.

Because here’s the thing:
There is no 100% before taking action.
That clarity you’re waiting for? It comes after the leap.

Welcome to perfectionist purgatory,
where unread self-help books glare at you from the bookshelf,
where dreams go to die in bookmarked podcast episodes
and 27 versions of a draft you never publish.

You’ve built a prison out of “I need to be ready.”
And I say that with love, because I fucking lived there and it sucks.

I don’t want you to wait for a breakdown to get your breakthrough.

What if the tiniest movement- one acknowledgement, one saying it out loud, one moment of honesty about where you’re really at, started the change?
I thought change had to be massive, all or nothing.
Turns out that’s complete bollocks.

What if the only permission you need to change is your own?

What if you said:
“Fuck it. I’m doing it anyway.”

That’s where this begins.
That’s where you begin.

If this stirred something in you good.
That means you’re alive.
And this is just the start.
More raw, real, gut-punch truth coming soon.

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